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The PhD is not wasted
My PhD was not wasted on my research experience certainly wasn’t wasted. My timing academia served a …
We need to learn to be bored more
I do my best thinking when I’m doing mundane tasks like the washing.
A job funds your passions
Previously, the thought of doing a really boring mundane job used to really upset me and make me …
Jesus meets all of our needs
Jesus has already met our deepest needs by dying on the cross for out sins in a way that we could …
Just focus on the immediate next step
I’m a planner. I love to plan in advance. I know that for sure.
When it comes to careers and …
How do you stop yourself from comparing to others
How do you feel? It never works out, does it? It just makes you feel bad and there is no growth from …
So many of my decisions are influenced by money
It feels like so much of my career planning isn’t based on what I want to do but based upon …
On tunnel vision
I know there have been many times in my life where I become so fixated on something that I can’t see …
Our problems are nothing compared to God.
My current situation with looking for new jobs is becoming quite stressful and there are times where …
There is no right or wrong way. There is only God's way.
Since I’m in the process of looking for new jobs, I find myself browsing a lot of LinkedIn …
Just one day at a time
You do not have to put the full weight of the future on your shoulders. The Lord is in control and …
I am the only one restricting my abilities and opportunities.
Far too often I am quick to blame my environment for my lack of opportunities but, more often …
The more you compare yourself to others...
…the more miserable you will be.
There are a so many things in my life I am grateful to God …
RIP Charlie Kirk
I am genuinely lost for words about this. I didn’t agree with 100% of everything he said, but …
Stop them from taking the joy out of life
I spend a lot of time in my head. Studying intently how people behave and getting paranoid about the …
On Anxiety and Control
I’ve come to realise something quite profound over the past few ways.
In my life (and …
Different types of friendships can exist for different people
I’ve come to accept that friendships can mean different things to different people and can look very …
Seeing people as they are
One of the things I really struggle with platforms like Instagram and Facebook is just have fake …
Making a decsion without all the information
I’m very quick to make assumptions about people and events without fully considering the …
Comparing yourself to others as a distraction
One thing I learned today is that not only does comparing yourself to others make you feel …
Getting called out in a loving way
I am grateful to have people in my life, who are not afraid to call me out for my behaviour …
God's Plan vs Mine
This year, so far, has been a tough one. I can see how God has been teaching me about making my own …
My thoughts on the latest abortion vote, UK
It’s been a tough few days in UK politics. Let me be upfront about this. This amendment passed …
Love others over wanting to be loved.
Far too often, when I look at others and get jealous by their relationship, I find myself asking …
People think more of you than what you may think
There have been times in church recently where my natural tendency to compare myself to others has …
Comparing yourself to others is not a zero-sum game
For a long time, my jealousy was fuelled by people having something which I want and don’t …
Socialising in Small Chunks
I was at a conference this week and it was fair to say that the introvert within me was struggling. …
Coping with Humor
Sometimes I feel the best way to deal with difficult situations is to turn to humor. A lot of people …
Seeing the world from the perspective of others
No, this is not something I’m actually very good at, but something I’m learning to …
Friendships can mean different things to different people
I’ve come to realise that friendships can mean different things to different people. What do …
Finding peace and being content
“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.” Nelson …
On Jordan Peterson and Christianity
Jordan Peterson is certainly a very interesting character for those who are engaged in the …
Making the most out of your job.
I know, it’s so easy for us to moan about our jobs and point out about how it’s not what …
On losing interest in things and getting excited by them again.
I don’t know, but I first started my current job. I had such a passion for what I did. I am …
People + Cars + Phones = Stupidity
Quick rant: As a cyclist, I come across a lot of dangerous driving, but one thing that drives me …
Some thoughts on job application rejections
Applying for jobs is hard enough, but being faced with constant rejection can really have a negative …
Life is in a constant state of flux
There’s no point planning too much as I have slowly come to realise that life (and with that, other …
Is the UK's Online Safety Act doing more good than harm?
Once again, it feels like the internet is under threat due to poorly devised government policy. The …
More on Emotional Intelligence...
It’s good to take times of and to rest. We need to build emotional reserves for the times when …
Your job is not your life
This is a hard one for me to learn what it feels like over the past few years. I’ve put my …
Understaning our Emotions
I’m reading a book at the moment about emotional intelligence, and if there is one thing I …
Do we love LLM's just a little too much?
Do we use LLM’s a little too much? Probably? I know I use it a lot throughout the working day. …
Envy will eat you up
The more and more I looks back on my easily 20’s, I can see clearly now how my envy never got me …
What is Social Media For?
I think it’s fair to say that I’ve never real “got” what social media is all …
There is no need to compete with others
You are not in a competition with others, but yourself. Stop making endless comparisons to others …
There’s no point being someone you’re not
… because they won’t accept you anyway.
For this reason you might as well cut your losses and just …
Slow and steady wins the race…
I’ve talked loads on this site about the importance of not comparing yourself to other people. Seems …
Notebook vs eInk Tablet
I really want to buy one of these reMarkable tablets. They look so cool, and they’re such a …
Why do people love mechanical keyboards so much?
Honestly, I think they are terrible. They are hard to use, plus they make loads of noise.
You Don’t Know What People Are Going Though
I’ve written in previous posts about the dangers of comparing yourself to others and why it is …
Thinking about God as Father
At our weekly church Bible study yesterday, we were talking about the line “Our Father” …
The Challenges of Academia: Part 3
Once again, I find myself writing yet another post about some of the many challenges and …
Modern Technology and the Tower of Babel
I found myself reflecting on the story of the Tower of Babel in Genesis 11:1-9 recently and how this …
A Fresh Start for Canada?
I’m not a Canadian, but I can’t help but fell a sense of relief for the Canadian people …
Is outsourcing in the NHS really that bad?
A recent poll conducted by YouGov shows that around 60% of a sample of N Britons support the idea …
The Challenges of Academia: Part 2
There are a lot of activities and events that take place in academia. However, many of these involve …
“Who am I to withhold forgiveness?”
I was struck by something a visiting preacher said in our church on Sunday regarding the forgiveness …
Car Leasing is Making People Poorer
I don’t think I’ll ever fully understand why people choose to lease cars rather than opt for …
On Jimmy Carter and Christianity
Jimmy Carter died aged 100 a few days ago. Many remember him for his kind and humanitarian persona …
Why do you have to compare yourself to others?
The simple story is, don’t do it. It never ends well and just leaves you feeling crap! Everyone is …
Arguing with Myself Again
I can’t speak for others, but I’ve developed a really bad habit of argue of myself Over a situation …
Favouritism sucks....
Yep, this may end up being another rant to post, but I wanted to get some stuff off my chest. This …
I need to slow down more...
It’s fair to say that I’m not very good at taking it easy and relaxing. I’m always wanting to do …
Comparing Yourself to Others Really Is Stupid
For my entire life, I’ve been a classic victim of the biggest scam of them all. I am a sucker …
Navigating Conflict: Two Perspectives to Consider
I’ve come to realise something quite profound over the past few days. When it comes to …
Social Media Influences Are a Bad Influence
It’s fair to say that I’m no fan of so-called “social media influencers”. I have nothing …
The Challenges of Academia: Part 1
To kick things off, I would like to start by saying that despite the many challenges of working in …
Are Digital Gardens Worth the Hassle?
I first heard about the concept of digital gardens a while ago, and I really love the idea. It’s a …
Kindle Vs Paperback
The classic Kindle vs paperback dilemma is one I experience a lot. Do I buy this book as a paperback …
My Thoughts on the Assisted Dying Bill
Naturally, as a Christian, I’m deeply saddened by the result of the assisted dying bill, which …
My Thoughts on Church Cliques
Why is this an issue? I think my hurt comes from the fact that I expect Christians to be inclusive …
Welcome
I’ve been meaning to create a website like this for a while. I basically wanted to spin up a …
Day 087 - Don't give in!
I know one small check appears to be quite harmless but I know that I don’t have the strength …
Day 087 - Allow yourself to be a beginner
I came across a great quote today that went along the line of:
Allow yourself to be a beginner. No …
Day 085 - Commitment to Physical exercise.
Seeing as the weather today was amazing, I certainly want to make the most of it during the summer. …
Day 084 - Be yourself
For as long as I can remember, whenever I felt low or depressed about who I was (usually as a cause …
Day 083 - Basic Discussions
Never underestimate the power one has when holding simple conversations with others. Simply by …
Day 083 - Make more time for people
I’ve learnt that rather than expecting other people to come to me to improve my social …
Day 081 - Deciding to be Better - Part 2
When you are feeling depressed and fearful about attending an event, just go anyway, you don’t …
Day 080 - Deciding to Be Better
I’ve been through a lot recently and I’ve decided that I’m going to better myself …
Day 078 Fake it till you make it
After two days worth of long meeting and engaging with new people, I’ve learned that the only …
Day 077 - Letting Go
You suddenly feel a lot happier when you realise the person you are interested in has their flaws …
Day 076 - Stop Worrying!
It’s about time I let God take the steering wheel. I’ve come to realise that I am so …
Day 075 - The Gospel
Today, I was told a truth which I will never forget! It’s about how true and amazing the …
Day 074 - Knowing your gifts
Today was another one of those reminders where you are very much aware of what you are good and not …
Day 073 - Slow Down
Far too often I turn to others to gauge a sense of how well I’m learning. If I see others are …
Day 072 - Learning not failing.
When you make a mistake, you are not failing and making yourself weaker. You are learning and making …
Day 071 - Understanding Purpose, Again!
Today was another one of those days where I felt positive about my work and the future. I really do …
Day 070 - Stop the overplanning
It’s better for you to actually get something done rather than stress, over-plan and get …
Day 069 - I can't be the author of my own salvation.
I cannot save myself! I can’t be in full control of everything otherways I will be in a …
Day 068 - Stop Stressing!
One thing I’m stressing out with a lot recently is my financial situation.
Given I’ve …
Day 067 - Planning a Trip
At the moment I am super excited about an upcoming trip to the USA.
I’m trying to do all that …
Day 066 - I love learning!
I’ve gotten a real buzz out of cycling and learning languages. It’s as if it has helped …
Day 065 - I DID IT
After months of feeling insignificant and worthless, I finally plucked up the courage to turn up to …
Day 064 - Thinking and acting slowly
I appear to be at my most productive and calmest when I think and do things slowly.
Here is a little …
Day 063 - Becoming more of a people person
On my path to becoming more of a people person, one skill that I learnt today could help for future …
Day 062 - Don't overdo yourself
I know it is far to easy to dive deep into a social situation, but knowing me, anything longer than …
Day 061 - Making plans without making plans
In life, it appears that I perform at my best when I don’t keep to a strict schedule. The …
Day 060 - Think carefully
I’m in a position where I need to think clearly about the direction of my dating life. There …
Day 059 - Finding the right teacher
If there is one thing I have learnt from spending most of my life in full-time education is that …
Day 058 - Don't wear yourself out.
In times like this where you have a lot of work to do, pace yourself out and take your time. You …
Day 057 - Making life easier.
It’s easy for me to make life so unnecessarily difficult and complex for myself. Given that I …
Day 056 - Admiring Creation
On a clear night like tonight, I felt like I was able just to lose all of my troubles and to …
Day 055 - A Potential Relationship
After a long drive across the country, there is certainly one thing I have learnt today.
There is …
Day 054 - Over-perfecting Plans
One of the main reasons as to why I never get work done is because I feel this need to over perfect …
Day 053 - Don't be afraid to speak up!
When I’m in meetings, I find that I am quite quick to shy away from what I truly want to say. …
Day 052 - Being in the right place
If life were to offer one goal, it would be to ensure that you are in the right place at the right …
Day 051 - Don't let jealousy overcome you
Whenever you feel overwhelmed by feelings of jealousy as you observe the lives and successes of …
Day 050 - You are not stupid!
I frequently find that there are times where I fail to get something and everyone else understands …
Day 049 - Getting worked up over the smallest of things
I know that me being the perfectionist that I am, I have a tendency towards wanting to get things …
Day 048 - Learning to be thankful and loving
In the midst of everyone else’s success, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by feelings of …
Day 047 - Don't be a Perfectionist
Today was a clear reminder as to why I’ve let my perfectionism become a persistent problem in …
Day 046 - Don't be harsh on yourself
I know it’s easy to go harsh on yourself when things go wrong.
Please don’t get angry at …
Day 045 - Finding the Maximum.
I’ve come to learn in life that I am in the best possible situation I can be in. Is this not …
Day 044 - Making improvements
Today was a slight improvement over the past few days! I managed to get a bit more work done. …
Day 043 - Busy Day!
Today was a busy day, but an enjoyable one.
I managed to end the day socialising with people of all …
Day 042 - When things go wrong...
When things go wrong, don’t sit there and stress about it. I know for sure that one of my …
Day 041 - People like you!
Don’t be quick to assume that people don’t like you. Remember, you better than what you …
Day 040 - You're worth more than what you think you are
Why do you settle for such a cheap lifestyle?
Do you not know that you are worth so much more than …
Day 039 - Let the thoughts follow.
Today was one of those days I had the ability to review and critique my work in a positive way. This …
Day 038 - Praise the Lord!
Today I felt so moved by God.
I spend the morning purely listening top hymns and other Christian …
Day 037 - Harnessing the wisdom of the crowd
Today I learnt something quite simple.
Next time you get those feelings of “what will others …
Day 036 - Getting things together
Is time to get organised again
If I am to truly to make the most of myself and my time, it’s …
Day 035 - Please, Don't Give Up
I know you have great difficulty in doing certain activities out of fear and anxiety.
Please …
Day 034 - Don't let pride win
Today, I was reminded of a popular sitcom in the ’90s of a woman that would do everything she …
Day 033 - I've Put God out of the Picture
Far too often, I think we are far too quick to rely on ourselves, other people and the things of …
Day 032 - Fight the Imposter Syndrome
Today marks exactly one month of my writing from this blog. I’m one-twelfth of the way …
Day 031 - What's the worst that can happen
Let’s get this very clear!
You are not an imposter!
You have every right to be at these events …
Day 030 - Slowly getting there
With the paper deadline in sight, this work will be over sooner than you know it.
Just remember, …
Day 029 - No Pressure
Don’t let the weight of the world rest on your shoulders!
You can’t handle that - no one …
Day 028 - Communication is Key
If there is one thing I have learnt today, is that communication and listening are key.
We all need …
Day 026 - Making sense of everything
Today was one of those random days where I learnt something super important that was of no relevance …
Day 025 - Getting there
This is what I learnt today:
- Getting out of your comfort zone one small step at a time. …
Day 024 - Work, Work, Work
Today was a very busy day at work. So many things to do in such a shot about of time! You’ll …
Day 023 - Be Satisfied
If there is one thing I have learnt about relationships from other people is that If you are not …
Day 022 - Don't take on too much
It’s easier to take on a lot of work just to feel busy and get paid for it.
Sure, I guess you …
Day 021 - You are needed!
If there is one thingif have understood today is that I am needed and appreciated.
Given my work, I …
Day 020 - Seeing past your struggles
So today I had one of those days where I felt incredibly sorry for myself!
Yeah, it kind of sucks to …
Day 019 - Killing two birds with one stone
Today I learnt the power of killing two birds with one stone.
This technique I have found to be …
Day 018 - Just keep going
Sure, we all have those days where we just want to put everything down because of the immense stress …
Day 017 - Slow and Steady
I’m slowly starting to get some of my important work down. The deadline is coming up soon so …
Day 016 - I messed up!
Today, I messed up.
I was on such a role recently untill the events of today.
Without talking too …
Day 015 - No to crowds
It’s quite simple.
I say no to loud crowded places.
I can’t stand it! There is no way …
Day 014 - Less anxiety and more excitement
Today I felt more confident with who I am and the future.
I felt much less concerned about …
Day 013 - You are more than what you think you are
Stop sitting there reminding yourself of what you don’t have or couldn’t be and start …
Day 012 - Being Moved!
Today I just felt so moved by the God’s Holy Spirit. I just couldn’t stop giving Him …
Day 011 - Don't be hard on yourself
Today I learnt not to be hard on myself. I went to my blood donation session today knowing too well …
Day 010 - Getting the job done
Today was a surprisingly productive day. I managed to get more work done than what I thought. It …
Day 009 - Mental Checkpoints
If you are anything like me, you will find that you are quick to tell yourself the same lie over and …
Day 008 - Uncertainty or Possibility
I believe what largely drives and feeds by anxiety is how I respond to uncertainty. When I am …
Day 007 - (James Bond) Infatuation or True Love?
Today I learnt that there is a huge difference between infatuation and true love. If you’re …
Day 006 - An Unexpected Surprise
Today was one of those days that brought the entire mood down. There is a strong possibility that …
Day 005 - Understanding Purpose
Trying to maintain an active blog and living my life at the same time is proving to be quite a …
Day 004 - Got work done. Happy Days!
To my delight, I found out that my close friend of mine was not involved in the incident that I was …
Day 003 - Same Old, Same Old
I’m writing this post today having resumed my work I left from yesterday. Nothing much has changed …
Day 002 - Back to Work!
So today is the day where I have to put the holidays behind me and face a new day (and new year for …
Day 001 - Happy New Year
To mark the start of my writing journey, I wish to start my first blog post on a positive. I spent …
Welcome to A Year of Writing
If there is one thing I need to learn to improve on, it is my writing skills. For many years, I have …