For my entire life, I’ve been a classic victim of the biggest scam of them all. I am a sucker for comparing myself to other people. No matter how many so called “self-help” books, I’ve read, I’ve always found myself comparing myself to others.
Why? It’s quite simple. It comes from a deep insecurity with inside myself. It’s like I try and find small little nuggets and success stories where I am better than others, but the vast majority of the time when I compare myself to others, it’s almost always negative.
But the truth is, Comparing myself to others, it’s like comparing apples to oranges. Like the issue, I’ve had with cliques in the past. Like the issue, I’ve had with cliques in the past (more on this here) The reality is, I’m not seen the full picture.
Also, I find myself comparing to those who are older and much more successful than me. This
Sort of logic is flawed from the beginning, because I’m at a clear disadvantage by the fact that they have more experience at life than me. For this reason, it is impossible to compare myself to them yet I still do it.
The best advice I have is this. It’s very clear that I’m good at comparing. Rather than compare myself to others (other peoples behaviour is completely out of my control), Why not compare yourself to who you were a year or so ago?
This is a game I can win. I can make small incremental changes to my like to improve who I am. Furthermore, I can also measure my improvement.
I don’t know what other people go through, the simple story is, I cannot compare myself to others, because We all live under completely different circumstances.