I’ve come to realise something quite profound over the past few ways.
In my life (and I’m sure for others too) anxiety manifests itself due to lack of control. If something is out of my control, that is when the anxiety comes.
This explains so much of my problems in my life. I crave control (not in a narcistic kind of way) as I want certain and predictably. Often enough, the common denominator in all my fears and anxiety, as irrational as they may be, comes down to situations which are uncertain and out of my control.
This is a massive realisation, and it certainly changes my relationship with anxiety.