For a long time, my jealousy was fuelled by people having something which I want and don’t have. One thing I’ve struggled with in particular is people starting a family - or expanding their family. To me, it’s always been the case Dave, someone announces that they’re expecting another baby it was always my loss. It made me feel deeply insecure about myself and my future.
The reality is that it’s not a zero-sum game. Just because someone else has something, it doesn’t mean I’m at a loss.
Also, going back to the comparison part of the issue, as I’ve said no end of times on this site, I don’t see peoples lives in full HD. While, this is an issue which consumes a lot of my thoughts, what’s to say other people? I’m thinking of something completely different. After all, we’re all sinners, and we all have our own issues. They could be struggling with something completely different, which I am not aware of. They might be looking at me in a similar way, who knows.
But remember, comparing yourself to others is not a zero-sum game.